the confinement nanny

We engaged a confinement nanny from Malaysia, and things just didnt seem right from Day 1.

1st, she said she could only reach on 28th evening (we're discharged from hospital on 27th). So, Elvis' mother offered to cook for me for 2 days. As usual, we dont always agree with each other. She kept asking me to wear more (i.e. ALL covered up) when i was already perspiring like crazy! On Day 2 (at home), Elvis' sister also came in the morning and the both of them asked me to do this, this, this...and i really didnt know which one to prioritize! It made me perspire even more! Suddenly, i realised that i havent even brushed my teeth! I felt so dirty and angry. Arrgh...

When the confinement nanny finally arrived on Day 2 evening (about 7pm), she kept asking my sis where is the BIG pot/flask/pail etc etc etc... My sis was very pissed. If she needed all those things and any "ingredients", she should have told us to prepare them before she came! I thought that she was supposed to be the expert and was supposed to tell us what to do when she arrived! Anyway, my mom said that she would bring her to buy those things the following day. So that part was settled.

Then, when we chatted for a while in the room, she kept asking all these questions about my family, Elvis' family (staying in condo?), what "business" he does in Shanghai etc etc... I felt she was being very "kay-po", and i was angry with my mother for letting her in on some "personal things". Then, she kept saying that this and that product (Medela breast pump, Avent bottles, nappy rash cream etc) that i bought is not good lah etc etc...a little indicating that mine is "cheaper" (when it's not the case at all)!

On the 2nd day, she removed ALL the "decorative things" from Joel's cot - the bumper, soft toys (from daddy, cousin Xan etc). I also realised from the 1st night that she didnt like to use the beansprout pillow we bought for baby Joel. That was not removed, but merely placed by the side (for show). She also kept saying that babies are not afraid of the cold, so dont need to cover so much in aircon room.

I feel she's starting to get on my nerves... Elvis scolds me for calling my friend to complain about the nanny. Even my friend's husband says that the nanny is not good coz she asked me to cook some pork porridge for myself before she comes (apparently, porridge causes "wind" which is not good to post-pregnant women).

Hope things will change for the better. Maybe it's too early to tell... We shall see... :(